Are you brave enough to make a life change?
I vividly remember going into school every day and moaning from the minute I got there till the minute I went home. Life, at that point, was pretty tough in our school. Many staff were dissatisfied, felt unsupported, under pressure and as a result many were unhappy in their posts.
I kept thinking, and had been for years, that there had to more to life than this but I wasn’t entirely sure what to do about it. I had a 6 year old, 4 year old twins and a self-employed husband to think of too. I needed to stay in teaching, because my husband’s income can vary and the construction industry wasn’t in a particularly good state.
However, I knew that something had to change. I couldn’t live like this forever. Moving schools was an option, but with a fantastic department behind me, I really didn’t fancy that option.
I have always loved numbers – my favourite subjects at school were PE, Maths and Accounts. Apparently a weird combo, but there you go! I decided to enroll in a bookkeeping course, and I a winter religiously completing course work, and passing all my bookkeeping exams. The following August I reduced my teaching commitment to 0.4 and started Adamson Bookkeeping Services. I loved the bookkeeping; it was fun, flexible and family friendly. It worked really well for us, and I was much happier at school. While things hadn’t changed at school, I just felt much more able to cope with it on a part-time basis.
Happier family life
This life change kept our family happy for a number of years, and although we had to make financial sacrifices, we were quite happy. However, as the years passed, we felt under more and more financial pressure – impending university costs, thoughts of our future planning and summer holidays were preying on my mind. We had happily given up foreign holidays for years, and never felt that we missed out, but I was beginning to be desperate to see the sun. University costs and retirement provision were also causing me real concern. As someone who craves stability and security, these issues needed to be solved, or I knew I would never be able to relax.
I toyed with teaching full-time again, and going for promotion, but I eventually ruled this out. I have got used to working for myself and I love the flexibility, as well as the responsibility and challenge that it brings.
It had to be another business then. I don’t think I am exaggerating when I say I had hundreds of business ideas going through my head – from one hair-brained scheme to the next in the middle of night, I eventually came up with Your Money Sorted. Another winter was spent traveling to various courses, hours were spent learning my new trade and by the following autumn I was a fully- fledged Financial Coach.
So in November 2014 I started my new business and from then on it has been plain sailing!
Well, not quite! It has been a huge learning curve, with many new skills to learn: website design, SEO, content creation, social media for business, marketing, networking as well as becoming more confident as a coach. I have made lots of mistakes, some of them bigger than others, and some of them more expensive than others. Hours have been spent creating courses, making videos, writing business plans, getting various pieces of software to link up, writing email sequences and blog posts. More hours than I care to imagine have been spent sitting at my laptop, often feeling like chucking the bloody thing out the window when that wee circle of doom starts whirring away!
So it is not easy – there have been so many times that I have tempted to throw in the towel, but I haven’t! For two reasons.
I keep remembering my goal – in 10 years’ time I want to be heading off in that camper van. Even on the bad days (of which there have been a good few!), I find 5 things that I am grateful for, writing them in my journal before I go to sleep. I also write 3 tasks for the next day and I go to sleep, grateful for what I have and organised for the next day. Now 6 months ago, I would have never have believed that I would be the type of person to do that – it seemed a bit of airy fairy nonsense to me! However, a chance encounter with The Life Changing Magic of Tidying, started me on a different, and fantastic path.
The other thing that keeps me from jacking it all in, is the feedback from my clients. It has been amazing since day one and it truly reminds me WHY I am doing this. I need to keep doing it, because there are so many people who need my help to transform their lives.
Keep moving forward
So I knew that I had to keep going, but it just wasn’t working the way I thought it should. Various marketing experts had told me that I needed to share more of myself and my story, but that was out of my comfort zone! Eventually I had to accept that these experts were right! Which brings me to the thing that I find most difficult. Sharing my thoughts on the www doesn’t come easy to me. I am Scottish – we don’t really like the limelight and we are notoriously bad at promoting ourselves. But, in order for my business to succeed, I have to put myself out there. It’s hard; I don’t like it; it scares me! However, no matter how scary it seems, I just have to hit that publish button.
Does it still scare me? Yep. Every time.
Does it make me feel uncomfortable? Again, every time!
But do you know what? The more I do it, the easier it becomes.
I can’t imagine that it will ever become 2nd nature, but it is definitely less scary than it was to begin with.
It’s good to push yourself out of your comfort zone – it’s the only way that we can change. It’s the only way that we stay young, vibrant, full of fresh ideas. For me, growth and change are vital. I have learned so much over the past few years since getting this business up and running, and it feels good!
That is my message to my clients – change is not easy. It will feel difficult sometimes, it will feel uncomfortable, but the end result will be worth it.
So my questions to you are “What are you putting off because it seems too difficult?” and “What can you do today that would help you to start solving that problem?”
Put yourself out there and do it! You will be rewarded for being brave!
I am Eileen Adamson, a Your Money, Sorted coach, working online with UK based women, helping them to develop a better relationship with money. By gaining an understanding of how their personality affects the decisions they make, I can help them to implement changes which will allow them to feel calm, positive and confident that they are in control and making good financial decisions. I can then support them to put into place simple strategies that will allow them to manage their finances effectively on a daily basis and create a stable, secure and exciting future for themselves.